tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post7685714360348005989..comments2023-12-29T11:18:24.454-05:00Comments on Down and Out Chic: Respect vs. PopularityChristinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05183231711425591135noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-50312393465681563952009-09-01T18:12:20.211-04:002009-09-01T18:12:20.211-04:00Christina, I am only now catching up on the posts ...Christina, I am only now catching up on the posts that I missed while I was gone and wow I missed this one! It is such an interesting subject and a very honest and wonderful post. It was wonderful to read so many different points of view. R-E-S-P-E-C-T always.<br /><br />Now may I say that you have a lovely family! Too cute:-)Charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02827007472712987880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-40448547415962246902009-08-02T03:26:46.789-04:002009-08-02T03:26:46.789-04:00i came back to this post to see what the other blo...i came back to this post to see what the other bloggers answers were (just curious since it's controversial in the blog world) but i can't believe i didn't comment on your neice and nephew! so cute! and your yellow shirt!! you look like a hot mom out of mad men or something!Diana https://www.blogger.com/profile/17224404867214558821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-5180225616322207682009-08-01T03:23:49.386-04:002009-08-01T03:23:49.386-04:00By the way your family is ADORABLE, bless.By the way your family is ADORABLE, bless.Clarityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05705409395605833495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-49113534769839959712009-08-01T03:23:04.012-04:002009-08-01T03:23:04.012-04:00Wow, a truly needed to be written post. A good int...Wow, a truly needed to be written post. A good introduction to me of what your blog is.. along with stylish :)<br /><br />I must admit I stopped caring completely at around the age of 21. I realised that respecting myself was the main thing, followed by close family members' respect. The rest of the world can take you as you are. If they don't take to you, their loss, wish them well and move on.Clarityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05705409395605833495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-32894686225670045882009-08-01T00:49:41.250-04:002009-08-01T00:49:41.250-04:00Blah, I hated high school for the same reasons! :)...Blah, I hated high school for the same reasons! :) I'd like to be respected for... being me :D.Sophiehttp://dottiearebel.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-27884060081202441712009-07-31T20:27:09.382-04:002009-07-31T20:27:09.382-04:00Do these things always have to be mutually exclusi...Do these things always have to be mutually exclusive of each other? Can't you be respected and popular inside the community of your choosing. Does popularity always mean a frivilous indulgence in the shallow? there are many people and artists that I respect and who are popular... Ginsberg, Arcade Fire, Sylvia Plath, Julie Taymor. <br /><br />I might say that their popularity is because they are unshamefully themselves and never played by the made-up rules of anyone else. They are popular and respected for the same qualities. <br /><br />That, I guess, is what I would like to acheive. I don't want to be a stoic, respectable person who can't live with or inspire real people. <br /><br />thanks for posting such a great topic... oh, and your family is ADORABLE. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-35148208431771871982009-07-31T14:41:56.441-04:002009-07-31T14:41:56.441-04:00So beautiful! Love the photos.So beautiful! Love the photos.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12898228924054730230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-62490729891375744972009-07-31T11:48:10.551-04:002009-07-31T11:48:10.551-04:00What a great post! I have to say, my initial respo...What a great post! I have to say, my initial response was Respect, of course! But then I think of all the times I give in as a mom...just for the ease of not having to fight. And sometimes I wonder if I care too much whether or not H likes me. But when it comes right down to it, I do want to be respected more than I want to be liked. I want to be respected for being honest, for knowing who I am, and for having integrity.<br /><br />Also, a while back I was feeling sorry for myself because my blog was sucking bigtime. I kept thinking, why does nobody like my blog, etc. And I felt crappy because it was turning into a popularity thing for me...and I have the same high-school revulsion of the "p" word. So after I finally became comfortable with myself again (it's a constant battle) I started having fun with my blog again.<br /><br />Oh, and you look gorgeous in the photos. Love the clip ons. And sorry for my novel of a comment. yikes!christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01969933668011152287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-21504827458186615052009-07-31T08:20:00.184-04:002009-07-31T08:20:00.184-04:00Respect is definitely more important! These are s...Respect is definitely more important! These are such cute pictures of you. And yes, everyone should try a low country boil. Sooo gooood! Sorry I haven't been around much lately. Trying to catch up on life since the wedding. Just seems to be a lot going on with friends, family, etc. Hope you're doing well, girlie!Marsi @ The Cottage Cheesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01930251048275030065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-86439367173054885872009-07-31T02:22:17.085-04:002009-07-31T02:22:17.085-04:00From a seller's point of view, being popular i...From a seller's point of view, being popular is vital. You can't do well without being known.<br /><br />Of course, respect is ethical and far more important in the real world.<br />But as a blogger I NEVER talk about certain 'taboo' themes, like religion, politics and (well for US mainly) abortion or death penalty.<br />Because I personally really dislike it when I stumble across a shop I like and the person only talks about his/hers religion views. (saying that I've told already too much :P)<br />I sometimes comment on other blogs my point of view regarding these themes, though. (depends on the blog, if the person seems open minded, and I try to be very very very diplomatic) <br /><br />This doesn't mean I don't stay true to myself in my blog, it's just that I don't tell everything about me.<br />But in the real world you don't tell to a whole stranger everything about you either, so I don't think a blog is a perfect place to unveil all you thoughts, desires and craziness.<br /><br />So in this end I would choose a balance of both, popularity AND respect.<br />Don't tell everything about you to achieve popularity, but never tell something wrong to stay true.<br /><br />Who said you really had to choose? Life isn't black or white there are tons of grays in between :)<br /><br />p.s.: just in case I made some errors, don't forget English is only my 3rd language :PStephanie Kilgasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822597102091771105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-56092618167097987142009-07-31T01:41:43.679-04:002009-07-31T01:41:43.679-04:00Respect, along with the mass votes. Popularity doe...Respect, along with the mass votes. Popularity does come with respect in the long run, but overall, I noticed when saying something that is right and just, does not make you popular.<br /><br />(BTW, you have no idea how much you've "kept it real" in the blogging community)Diana https://www.blogger.com/profile/17224404867214558821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-88665545175867671602009-07-30T19:16:44.486-04:002009-07-30T19:16:44.486-04:00I ask myself that all the time as I started commen...I ask myself that all the time as I started commenting on all these blogs I wasn't remotely interested in just to get readers. I eventually stopped and now I comment on the things I care about...its better that way.Felicia|DaLipstickBandithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919397591358811652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-16748331552203191442009-07-30T18:05:01.929-04:002009-07-30T18:05:01.929-04:00Oh! I forgot to say how lovely those photos are wi...Oh! I forgot to say how lovely those photos are with your little relatives! Your niece is gonna be a big heartbreaker for sure! :)Samhttp://www.matouenpeluche.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-23805279924040968042009-07-30T18:03:45.029-04:002009-07-30T18:03:45.029-04:00Awesome post Christina! After a bit of a think I&#...Awesome post Christina! After a bit of a think I've decided neither! For me the most important thing is respecting myself. At the end of the day it's you alone who has to live with yourself, right? The other two are the cherries on the cake.Samhttp://www.matouenpeluche.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-90302911784534491432009-07-30T17:29:36.718-04:002009-07-30T17:29:36.718-04:00I couldn't agree more and I think it is easy t...I couldn't agree more and I think it is easy to get caught up in the "highschool" mentality and want to increase your readership, but really is it worth it? To me, I am such a perfectionist that sometimes I lost site of my blog because I feel like I need to read everyone elses too. Now...it is important to keep up and have fun on your own, but with the word RESPECT in mind. Thank you for reminding of this. It really means a lot.Sierra https://www.blogger.com/profile/00915109851341043600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-39674447174796483252009-07-30T17:21:15.260-04:002009-07-30T17:21:15.260-04:00YOU ARE SO GORGEOUS! and your niece is adorable!
...YOU ARE SO GORGEOUS! and your niece is adorable!<br /><br />and the respect/popularity thing is an interesting question. in some ways i am confused by blogging. i hope those that come to my blog do it because they actually LIKE it. if they don't like it, they shouldn't bother!<br /><br />so i think i'm looking for respect, and only popularity if BASED on respect. if that makes any sense at all!drollgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17098844996589898590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-37116565070080502592009-07-30T17:15:06.953-04:002009-07-30T17:15:06.953-04:00First, your niece is adorable. I love having niece...First, your niece is adorable. I love having nieces and nephews.<br />Secondly, your post is fantastic and quite timely. I think I'd answer- of course respect. But, I still think there is a little part of me wanting the popularity... I know that while I get excited about my growing (???) readership, at my core, I know I DON'T want to sacrifice/alter who I am or what I want to write about. Important to remember that though.Southern Aspirationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00042045652329926178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-76269284908853659462009-07-30T15:31:24.316-04:002009-07-30T15:31:24.316-04:00Your family is so adorable! And look at your pret...Your family is so adorable! And look at your pretty little self with that cute yellow dress!<br /><br />Respect is the only way to live a happy life. Why is it so important to be popular? I have never understood this...<br />Living my life for me and my family is all that matters, and I only earn respect by giving and being the best person I can possibly be.<br /><br />My hope is that my little girl respects me for being a strong person who loves the Earth, believes in good/clean living, and hopes that there will one day be a world full of peace. And I want my husband to respect that I will always be a dreamer, and I'll never stop chasing them.Simply Mel {Reverie}https://www.blogger.com/profile/15881462293605864150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-13759730258403080132009-07-30T15:06:54.436-04:002009-07-30T15:06:54.436-04:00Great post and very cute pictures!
As for your qu...Great post and very cute pictures!<br /><br />As for your question, I think that everybody likes to be popular because in order to do something really well you need some positive feedback. What I learnt from blogging is that you have to be honest, you have to follow your instincts and you have to have fun? You can not be successful by pretending you are someone else!Monikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14797145209226553428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-51347086534870881682009-07-30T14:29:49.996-04:002009-07-30T14:29:49.996-04:00we do it for fun.
we do it for ourselves and our f...we do it for fun.<br />we do it for ourselves and our friends and if other people want to read and become our friends- the better.<br />numbers are just numbers.<br />you gotta have respect for yourself and just keep doing what you're doing for your own benefit.carly maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10482096580350959799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-30384198648872067532009-07-30T14:07:52.253-04:002009-07-30T14:07:52.253-04:00they are the cutest!
I think that with respect co...they are the cutest!<br /><br />I think that with respect comes popularity! I would never compromise myself in order to gain popularity....we all (or at least I do), crave respect.<br /><br />I agree with a few comments above, you are both!Alinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05116049562780969241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-4835906948689952812009-07-30T13:59:35.448-04:002009-07-30T13:59:35.448-04:00Great post - I struggle with that as well - I want...Great post - I struggle with that as well - I want readers but I want to continue being me and holding true to my beliefs and express my own point of view and voice. I don't want to fall into pleasing everyone just to be popular...so respect wins for me, but it is hard when you see numbers drop or don't get a lot of comments and just see the huge # of blogs out there with more readers than you can ever dream of...like yours!!! :-)<br />So you are popular and respected in my mind... :-)Waxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08267894774331891071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-54658261236706348772009-07-30T13:58:38.311-04:002009-07-30T13:58:38.311-04:00i have a friend who says: instead of "either/...i have a friend who says: instead of "either/or" why not "and/both"! i LOVE it! how about being respected AND popular, which to me you totally are both, i guess the important thing is really how you feel on the inside though....ruth allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01887423499403421729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-71455313791166705202009-07-30T13:53:23.444-04:002009-07-30T13:53:23.444-04:00Your niece is adorable :]
And about the issue, if...Your niece is adorable :]<br /><br />And about the issue, if you strive for respect, then you will gain popularity with the kind of people who would respect you. Aka, the kind of people who are worth loving. Be yourself. 100%. That is the only way to be surrounded with people that both respect AND love you. The ones that fall away when you strive for respect instead of popularity aren't worth being around anyways, and you'll hate your life trying to impress them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4711916785635061879.post-74679366266516093662009-07-30T13:41:59.857-04:002009-07-30T13:41:59.857-04:00Those who are true to what the do and who they are...Those who are true to what the do and who they are and what they know, in the end get both!<br /><br />Be well.<br />Do good.<br />All ways.<br />All days.<br />Stay true.<br /><br /><br />I expect both.TERI REES WANGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14948438335395055496noreply@blogger.com